Rules for dating an ex boyfriend

29 Jan

" This is the status I was greeted with this week on the Facebook page of one of my dear girlfriends.My knee-jerk response was "Duh, who wouldn't be pissed?

"Of course it helped that she didn't suck.""My ex and I decided one of us would officially call things if one of us ever started having feelings again," said Mark, 27.I call my friend Ashley the "Ex-Boyfriend Whisperer." I call her this because no matter how bad any of her breakups have been, four months after the split, Ashley and her former beau have moved safely into the friend zone. Ashley is rare, but she isn't some kind of relationship unicorn. I recently asked Ashley how many serious (more than three months was the cutoff) boyfriends she had, and how many of them she remained friends (in regular contact) with.We got in a fight, and after that, we really did stop being friends forever.I still miss her sometimes, and I still wish he was never in the picture.Some of the rules are rational but difficult for those of us who relish the irrational after a breakup.Others might seem outside the box, but I've been promised they get the job done."Breakups happen for a reason.Let something be broke, allow it to heal, and then work on establishing a friendship," explained Alex R., a 24-year-old medical student in Philadelphia. A minimum of half the time you dated."I know it sounds harsh and I guess you could break the rule after like a decade or so, but the key to staying platonic with my exes is limiting our hangouts to group activities," said Adam M., a 33-year-old lawyer in Chicago.Four years after their breakup, Alana, 31, was a bridesmaid in her ex-boyfriend's wedding.There are some men and women whose superpowers include maintaining beyond-cordial associations with everyone they've ever seriously dated.I asked 10 of these savants to share their Ten Commandments for Staying Friends With an Ex.